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Where do you draw the line?

Where do you draw the line?

Establishing boundaries anywhere in life requires an effort to develop that which is important to you, express it clearly and then enforce those parameters. This actually happened in Washington this past week when President Biden announced he’d received new...

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On Being Whole

On Being Whole

When you believe someone is whole, there is nothing to change. They are exactly who they say they are. If and when something needs to shift, it is totally up to that person to start the process. Should they ask you to join in their effort, that’s the time for your...

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You’ve Got This

You’ve Got This

I want to explore what it means to deal with areas of life that tend to overwhelm you: work, relationships, health, finances – you name it.The place where I’m seeing healing and growth at the moment has to do with waiting. I won’t bore you with details, but here...

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Lost and Found

Lost and Found

“I need to get outside,” my 81-year old father turns and announces as he swings his arms back and forth standing alone in the middle of the garage.

He’s holding a broom, grinning from ear-to-ear, after my mother called from the basement to report him missing. He drops the broom to pull up his pants, which tend to slip down his small frame from time to time because he doesn’t notice they’re unbuttoned.

“Let’s go this way,” I direct him and open the side door that leads into the backyard. Squinting in the light he shuffles through the garden to the porch and sits down.

“Dad, where were…?” and then I stop myself. I try not to ask my father questions anymore, but it’s not easy. I had to be taught.

“Questioning your loved one with Alzheimer’s causes confusion, frustration and anger,” our instructor told the 12 of us who’d gathered to figure out how to manage our parent, partner or ex husband who was morphing into a different person, “because as the plaque and tangles increase in the brain, they clog the memory centers.”

So instead of questions, I make statements. If he doesn’t like my suggestion, he’ll change it up.

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